Niceguy
Registered: 07/20/09
Posts: 1
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Hi fellow depressives and professors of love,
Let me start by telling you all a little bit about myself. Im an outdoor adventurous sporty kind of guy (24 years old). My favourite thing to do is/was to make my girlfriend feel like a princess. I used to take her out to fancey restraunts that we've never tried before, buy her flowers, listen to her problems and give her advice when needed. I'm not the type of guy to want to date many woman and i dont seek any 1 night stands or crave anyone elses attention. I am what you might call a "Nice guy" but nice guys ALWAYS come last.
I had a fabulous girl. We'd been dating for 3 years now and things were going well. However we did have some tough times over the past. I met her when i was trying to get over my previous X (also broke my heart). She was fun and had the same morals and ethics as me. She wasnt as outgoing and spontaneous as me, but i learned to love her exactly for who she was. Over the past year i had been studying 18 hour days just to pass my engineering universtiy exams. I also went to america for 6 months to get away from life for a bit. Things between us remained strong. We chatted everyday and planned a 4 week holiday in the USA and carribean. We had lots of fun.. but had a few fights along the way.
Now comes the big event. about 4 weeks ago i finished my final exams, had my birthday and was loving life. I could now see my girlfriend whenever i wanted to (not only twice a week that studies limited me too). We'd pulled through the tough times and things looked bright for us. However after she had a quick family holiday in London, she got back we had a fun 3 weeks and then out of the blue,
SHE BROKE UP WITH ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
her reason. she thinks we are not right for each other, she loves me and still wants to be friends. She highlighted events that she wasnt happy with (all small things that i could have fixed). She didnt communicate with me about any of these things and as a result she just ended things. She said we need to brake up and maybe we'll see in a month!! Maybe??? ha?
That was a week ago.. and im very depressed. I have a good few friends and family that are trying to help me through this. I want her back more than anything in the world. I know she needs time but i just cant take it.. its killing me. We loved each other and were having the time of our lives. She broke my heart so she could be single for a while. I dont want things to end. Not like this, not now... not at all! Her birthday is in a month, I want to make her a journal of our holiday and all our memories!!???
I really do need advice.. and any other details i left out ill fill you in on...
thanks...
HEARTBROKEN
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redford804
Registered: 10/11/09
Posts: 3
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Your situation sounds pretty similar to mine except mine didn't tell me we'd see in a month. You have to decide how likely it is that she'd change her mind. If you think you can work things out with her then talk to her and tell her that you love her and want to work this and believe that you can. Let her know that if she needs a little time to herself that you can give her that. I don't know the details on what she said really or what she's like, so that's difficult to determine what she would do.
If it's unlikely though that ya'll will patch this up then you need to do yourself a favor and break all contact with her. Even the slightest contact makes you feel psychotic. Trust me, I'm going through it too. It's hard to let go.
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